Allow me to be quite personal in this post. I have been thinking a lot, and I just need to sort through my thoughts. If you have any thoughts or advice I would love to hear from you.
Earlier this week, I had one of my hardest days at school. It had nothing to do with what we were doing, but more with what I was feeling. In class we were talking about preparing for our National Board Exams. At first I think I started to feel nervous about how I could ever be ready for such a daunting exam. I had this overwhelming feeling of discouragement and doubt. After class I went to my car and just cried.
I kept asking myself, "what is wrong with me?" and "why am I so worried about a silly test?"
I realized then I wasn't really worried about dental hygiene or exams, or school at all. I was just so disappointed in myself. Mostly in my lack of confidence and feelings of inadequacy.
Later that day I had more time to think about what was going on with me. It was hard to think clearly, as I had stressed myself out so much my head was pounding. I think this day is something that had been coming for a while, I just didn't want to deal with it. These are thoughts I have had for years, but I somehow convinced myself I had conquered these issues, when I now realize I have just been suppressing them.
I have come to realize I don't know myself at all. I feel I have been living the way I think others want to me to live for my whole life. I am ashamed that I don't have many strong opinions of my own. I have watched people I admire my whole life, wishing and trying to be more like them, and then falling ever so short. I don't know what my strengths are. I know all too well my weaknesses. I feel selfish.
I want to live purposefully.
I want to have meaning in my life.
I want to live for the happiness of others and not just myself.
I want to know who I am, and what I believe in.
I feel weak. I want to be strong.
I want to value myself.
I want to believe in myself
I want to be able to look at others and admire their strengths without feeling inadequate myself.
I have no idea how to do this. I have been struggling with this my entire life. I feel I do everything I am "supposed" to do. Some days it helps, others days I feel more frustrated. Several of you have encouraged me to blog more. The truth is, the reason my blog is so empty is because I am afraid of myself. I am afraid to say, 'this is me,' 'this is what is important to me.'
But I am tired of being afraid. And so, as one effort in finding myself, I will be using this blog as a means to my self discovery.
If you care enough to be reading this, you are probably someone I love and admire more than you will ever know. I thank you for being a part of my life and allowing me to learn from you.